18-05-2022 01:36 PM
18-05-2022 01:36 PM
Sending you lots of hugs @hanami
Yes part of mum's bowel died and had to be removed
She has to be careful as the scar tissues in the bowel can easily block up
She said she has not been to the toilet for 2 days soo far soo I am hoping it will be OK 🤞🤞
19-05-2022 04:28 PM
19-05-2022 04:28 PM
Hello @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @moderator
Feeling sad,
Mum being reassessed at the hospital, mum telling a whole lot of rubbish just soo she can go home
I had to talk to the OT on the sidelines
Feel like drinking lots which is NOT me !!!!!
Arggggg
19-05-2022 04:33 PM
19-05-2022 04:33 PM
Hello and hugs my sister @Emelia8 xxx
I am feeling soooo arggggggg !!!!!!!
19-05-2022 04:35 PM
19-05-2022 04:35 PM
Hey @Shaz51,
I can hear it's a lot you're going through at the moment, and I'm sorry it's like this ❤️ Sending lots of support your way
It sounds like drinking a lot is not something you'd ultimately want to do? If so- are there other ways you've managed big emotions in the past that have worked for you?
🌻
19-05-2022 04:43 PM
19-05-2022 04:43 PM
Ohhhh @Shaz51 I am really sorry to hear that. Your Mum is desperate to get out of hospital and back home into your wonderful care. 😄🌷
Of course she will say whatever it takes to enable that to happen.
You did the right thing to speak to the OT on the sidelines. I am sure they get this sort of thing all the time. Please dont feel bad about telling the truth about how she is, or isnt, managing at home.
You should take a bow that she wants to go home, a place where you obviously take very good care of her.
Now ... rather than hitting the bottle ... how about a chai latte or hot chocolate with me? I really think I need something as I'm feeling very low on energy.
Emelia 🌷
19-05-2022 04:58 PM
19-05-2022 05:23 PM
19-05-2022 05:23 PM
It is hard saying the truth when mum is glaring at you with angry eyes @Emelia8 , @Former-Member , @hanami , @Former-Member , @Jacques , @Faith-and-Hope , @Anastasia , @Adge
19-05-2022 05:48 PM
19-05-2022 05:48 PM
Sometimes @Shaz51 our parents have to face the truth that their care is sometimes too much for us, I had that with my dad, I helped care for him until the day he died but sometimes we did need respite and he did need care we just could not provide.
I hope your mum can see how much you love her and want the best for her, you will always be there for her but she will need extra help.
Hugs my friend
19-05-2022 05:56 PM - edited 19-05-2022 05:57 PM
19-05-2022 05:56 PM - edited 19-05-2022 05:57 PM
Thank you @Jacques , @Emelia8 , @Former-Member ,, @Dimity @@moderator ❤❤❤
Just feeling sad right now but I know it is the right thing to do xxx
Mum was angry that I did not agree with her
She does not want any outside help but me
19-05-2022 06:00 PM
19-05-2022 06:00 PM
it is fear of losing independance @Shaz51 my mum is struggling with that too, being independant all their lives it must be so so difficult to ask or need help.
i hope the glass of wine is helping you relax
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