Okay @Glisten @Apple2 found some stuff!
First off, one of the biggest hurdles I see is in how men vs women are diagnosed with ASD. I think stigma can play a big role, and because of differences in brain structure and especially in how we're socialised, it often means women and folks assigned female at birth go under the radar. You can read more here! Not sure if this is relevant to you but worth mentioning.
I found this little guide to help figure out some online tests if you wanted to do some of those. It isn't always obvious when a symptom is present though, because often masking becomes unconscious!! The amount of times I have had a friend say 'Oh but that symptom doesn't effect me, because I have A System!' and yes that is super autistic of us apparently!
Remember also always that humans are funny little creatures who comes in all sorts of fun flavours! No two neurodiverse people are exactly alike or experience the exact same form of challenges, even if they have identical diagnoses. If the support you're receiving feels invalidating or dismissive of your experiences, you can always go out and seek someone else... painfully expensive as it can be!
Oh and please avoid the organisation 'Autism Speaks' - they're nasty. Their whole shtick is basically trying to 'cure' autism and force everyone to fit into the neurotypical mold. We're stronger when we have all sorts of neurotypes helping society along!
If there's any other kinds of info or resources you think you'd want to take a poke at let me know and I might be able to help. Hope the journey is enlightening, and not too stressful for you 💜
