How do you "deal" with it all?

Hi @WithTheMoon, welcome to the forums- We're glad to have you here 😊

It sounds like it's been tough navigating how you've been feeling having a veteran parent whilst not having anyone who can relate. The good news is that plenty of the forumites here definitely know how you feel, and you definitely aren't alone.

I'm going to tag a few members who may be able to give you some tips or share some thoughts @Oaktree @BecomingOkay @Magpie22 @ccau_82.

Have you ever considered or had a chance to contact any supporting services? Open Arms is fantastic for supporting veterans and veteran families.

Through my volunteer work with the Army Cadets, I regularly meet young people who are feeling this way. What I’ve learned is that sometimes the most powerful support we can offer is simply being present—listening without judgement and giving them space to express how they’re feeling. Often, that alone helps them gain clarity and feel less overwhelmed.

They also have the opportunity to connect with other young people who may be experiencing similar challenges. In doing so, they realise they’re not alone, and many form strong, supportive bonds that help them grow together.

There are many ways to connect with like-minded people who understand, support one another, and walk alongside each other as they navigate their own journeys.

Hey, thankyou for the response and apologies for my last reply! I have definitely considered it, but life has a way and now having moved out and having a kiddo i haven't had too much time to delve in it. Going to make that a goal of this year though 🙂

You stand proud beside them, you hug away the tears and love away the hurt when it appears each time. You sit with them, quietly snuggle up against them, take some deep breaths and consciously relax against them. Let them love the precious reason (you) why they did what they believed needed doing at that time. Let them know, with your voice but even more so your actions, that they are always your safe place, that they are your go to place where you feel safe knowing the world can’t hurt you because they are there, always watching, ever vigilant. Learn the Disney rule of hugs…. It takes time for the heart to unlatch and release chemicals such as oxytocin. Don’t rush a hug, give it time to break through. In Disney, when a child hugs an adult, the adult doesn’t let go until the child does first, this works both ways…

Hi @WithTheMoon ,

How have you been feeling lately? I hope you've been feeling a little lighter and that things are improving.

Have you had a go at doing something for yourself? I'd love to know more about your goals for the year 🙂

hello @Radar1971 

how are you going today my friend 

thinking of you lots and sitting with you 

@WithTheMoon , @GalaxyGuide , @BecomingOkay