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22 Oct 2019 08:48 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:48 PM
Oh wow @Adge that sounds fabulous. I admire your commitment of 8 years, what a beautiful investment in SELF.
22 Oct 2019 08:49 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:49 PM
As we head towards the end of the night - lets get to the our last question! @Spirit1 @Adge @Fracturedlight @Shaz51 @Teej @outlander @light87
Maintaining and looking after your own identity while maintaining your relationship with your loved one can be difficult. What are the things that you could do that can help you connect with yourself? Asking yourself what are my needs?
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
This is a helpful strategy to alleviate that sense of urgency.-- yes because mr shaz gets soo overwhelmed soo easy @Former-Member
i try to only do a couple of things at a time or else it gets tooo stressful for him
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
@Teej So good to be able to be transparent and set some boundaries around your friendship. This is important as otherwise you can get really enmeshed in each others lives rather than being able to differentiate and have those boundaries.
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
@Carer01 ! Missed tagging you apologies! 🧡
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:52 PM
Yes asking myself "What are my needs"? is a good starting point @Former-Member
That's because I do have trouble identifying (or responding to) my needs, quite often.
Journal writing (how I'm feeling etc) helps me to "Connect with myself", I think.
I'm not sure what else might help...
Adge
22 Oct 2019 08:53 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:53 PM
@Former-Member I find walking and enjoying nature clears my mind and calms me which enables me to carry on without feeling overwhelmed.
22 Oct 2019 08:54 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:54 PM
Carers or family and friends can become so enmeshed in their loved ones life that they find it difficult to know who they are anymore. If you ask yourself what is my purpose if I’m constantly responding to someone elses needs, it can be difficult to know who you are. Having an interest or passion that is completely your own and that can help you to connect with others that have the same passion, can be really helpful. Joining a group where you can be active and get out of your head, a walking or running group. Setting yourself some goals that can give you a sense of achieving something can be very useful too. You don’t have to start big, you can start small. Breaking out of the rut you’re in can be helpful to, challenge yourself to do one thing that is different for you on a certain day. It can be anything at all. Develop a routine or rhythm each day that gives you the message that my day begins with ME, whether that ‘s going for a walk or having a cuppa on your own
22 Oct 2019 08:55 PM
22 Oct 2019 08:55 PM
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