A few days ago I left a psychologically abusive relationship. With a trauma therapist, I worked hard at preparing myself to do so. Even though I prepared it was the hardest thing I've done so far. Luckily, an aunt is away on holiday for a month and let me stay at her place for somewhere to go.
My therapist gave me a crisis plan, which included reaching out to a relationships help line if I felt I was getting in crisis. Well, on one night, getting constant calls and texts from my partner I called them to talk about things. I mention in the call that I had hurt myself in the past due to stress, but that's the only "triggering" thing I said.
Well, they called the police on me. Probably not even called, just gave them my phone number. The police went to my old place, where my ex lives and told her they were "concerned about my safety". She gave them my location and I was basically given an ultimatum: be around someone else who will keep an eye on you, or go to hospital.
So, with no where else to go, I've had to move back into the stressful location and situation I was trying so hard to get away from. And, of course, it's harder to leave now because I'm "crazy" and might hurt myself.
Is it just me or is it completely inappropriate for the relationships helpline to do this, knowing as they did, about my situation (I had even told them I had moved out)? At the very least they could have advised the police to call me first so that I could explain the situation to them.
