2 weeks out from break down of an 8 year relationship

[Ipponka]

@tymethat is a very good point. I personally find it hard to celebrate myself but it is something I will pay attention to.

Being proud of myself and showing that self love feels very foreign but I am working on it. Celebrating my personal growth hopefully will come as part of that self-love process.

Tyme, I hope you are looking after yourself too and having a great holiday period.

[tyme]

I will be having a week's break, but will be missing my forums family here. @Ipponka 

This place is part of my life 🙂

I hope things work out for you and you take time for yourself.

Hugs

[tyme]

Hey @Ipponka ! I feel I haven't spoken to you in ages!

[Ipponka]

Hey @tyme, I appreciate you checking in. It's been some time and I'm still navigating the relationship ending itself. 

I'm a lot more settled and doing much better, some days are hard. Working with a psychologist is really helping 🙂

[tyme]

That's incredible to hear that speaking to a psychologist is really helping @Ipponka ! I know it takes time to navigate the challenges of the end of a relationship. 

Feel free to use this space to consolidate any thoughts you're working on processing. Of course, no pressure. This is only if you think it'll help.

Sometimes, connecting with others reminds us that we are not alone in what we are going through and it makes the pain more bearable.

Have you been up to much in terms of your own self-care?

[Ipponka]

At the beginning it was very difficult @tyme 

I've been more intentional about spending time with my support network in the beginning.

Now, some months later, it's been about keeping a routine and letting myself be as well as I can be.

I'm very fortunate to have a good network of friends who care, sometimes it didn't feel like they could take the pain away. It took time for me to be okay with that and still be thankful.

Working through stuff in therapy has also been very productive and is a big part of getting through the worst of it.

This space and the SANE helpline was also a big part of getting through the hardest parts of it in the first few months.