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@scruffypuffball @Jynx @_PixieSolstice_ @toodles @tyme 

Shoutout to everyone doing the work.

To everyone who skilled up to challenge the fear.

CHANGE BEGINS WITH YOU

YOU’RE WORTH THE WORK

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Yes!!!! I love that @Glisten 

 

So so true! Sing it, shout it, let it ring! 

 

Change begins with YOU!

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@tyme @Jynx @Glisten @_PixieSolstice_ @toodles 

 

Quote from Elizabeth Mika, like attracts like:

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"Just a reminder that…. Character disordered individuals -- ppl w/o conscience like malignant narcissists and their ilk -- attract and legitimize other conscience-deficient characters, their worldview, and lifestyle." Elizabeth Mika
 
This happened to me, can confirm:
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if you think having toxic people in your life is devastating, imagine the ones in power.  Bandy Lee said dont give toxic people power, they wont know what to do with it so they destroy everything

 

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This narcopath dude on twitter is always on a role:

 

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yep, my abuser who has aspd is:

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interesting interview.  I remember reading a quote on twitter: "Abusers are dictators without a nation"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yR7NMdpNtSU

 

Bandy Lee is an expert on the pathology of abusers.  I always quote her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WKVZKv45lMI

 

 

This week we interview Dr. Bandy Lee who is a medical doctor, a forensic psychiatrist, and a world expert on violence who taught at Yale School of Medicine and Yale Law School for 17 years before transferring recently to Columbia and Harvard. She became known to the public by leading a group of ...
This video was recorded on April 6, 2022, and features psychology experts Dr. Bandy X. Lee, Dr. Steven Hassan, and Nick Carmody, JD MS Psych, in conversation with TEDxMidAtlantic host David Troy. The current war in Ukraine has raised critical questions about the mindset of Vladimir Putin. Many ...

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@Jynx @tyme @Glisten @_PixieSolstice_ @toodles 

 

now I cant stop.  this is how i collect psycho-education

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went thru this today:

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"Don't worry about being alone. There is nothing more lonely than living with a narcissist."

 

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I am trying....

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@Jynx @tyme @Glisten @_PixieSolstice_ @toodles @Appleblossom 

 

you can tell i am on leave cant you...i have time to share more gems.  had a bad week.  i was feeling down so now I am sharing with you in the hope i can lift someone.  This takes me back to my #narcissisticabuse twitter days.  Notice it is all in 2020.  I collected these while working from home during lockdown.  One of the periods of growth in my life.  I did not waste it.  I hope this helps in some way.

 

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for some people it is a game:

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OMG this... THIS! (Quote from Ryan North)

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Listen to your gut:

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Niceness is an act.  Kindness is a character trait:

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We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decis...

 

 

When they chase you it may mean they like you, it may mean they want to control you...

Persistence only proves persistence-it does not prove love. The fact that a romantic pursuer is rele...

Gavin de Becker

 

 

Sociopaths love power. They love winning. If you take loving kindness out of the human brain, there'...

Martha Stout

 

 

The perfect victim, from the sociopath's point of view, is the person who is smart enough and capabl...

Martha Stout

 

 

The most reliable sign, the most universal behavior of unscrupulous people is not directed, as one m...

Martha Stout

 

 

If you don't have a conscience, what is your behavior like? Apparently, if you don't have a conscien...

Martha Stout

 

 

The reason I want to explain that you're probably never going to get revenge a sociopath and you're ...

Martha Stout

 

 

People ask me many times, "Aren't you afraid you're going to scare people? Aren't you afraid you're ...

Martha Stout

 

Being sociopath is not what most people would consider to be winning. Most of us have some kind of p...

Martha Stout

 

 

I was once doing a book signing and a man came up to me and said that he gave classes to people who'...

Martha Stout

 

 

Sociopaths are not afraid of very much, except for physical harm and dying - really primitive, basic...

Martha Stout

 

I always wonder why people rev their cars when they drive past.  They are telling on themselves:

Another thing that's fun for sociopath is speed, literal speed, going very fast in your car. Not tha...

Martha Stout

 

power is a poison, a primitive drive:

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Cats are like this.  Learn from cats:

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“About one in twenty-five individuals are sociopathic, meaning, essentially, that they do not have a conscience. It is not that this group fails to grasp the difference between good and bad; it is that the distinction fails to limit their behavior. The intellectual difference between right and wrong does not bring on the emotional sirens and flashing blue lights, or the fear of God, that it does for the rest of us. Without the slightest blip of guilt or remorse, one in twenty-five people can do anything at all.”
Martha Stout, The Sociopath Next Door

 

 

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Dont tolerate it.  Learn to love yourself:

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The way to win is to not play:

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ok i went thru 70 pages of 157 of stuff I collected over the years.  going 2 bed now my shoulder hurts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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@tyme @Jynx @scruffypuffball @_PixieSolstice_ @toodles 

It is the one year anniversary of the physical DV incident. 
It took a fair amount of self-talk to do the 2 hour drive south. I was scared of being triggered once I got to my friend's house.

It was the opposite no triggers, no panic attacks. If anything I had a feeling of calm and control. Which baffles me.

Any thoughts?

Had dinner with my friend’s loaded my car and drove two hours home. Arrived 45 minutes ago. I’m still very relaxed and happy.

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@scruffypuffball  I almost needed to call a catholic priest to exercise the Narcissist Memory Demon from post. So graphic it was disturbing to read, because all those statements are true and real. 
It happened to us @scruffypuffball and I am very grateful to you for your honesty, for not letting me stand alone.

Grief is love that has no where to go. This morning my tears of grief are for the person I was. I kissed her goodbye as she died. I am not her, I am in progress of becoming, me.

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@toodles  🤣😂 BAHAHA 

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IMG_0139.jpegHappy first day of summer!