~ The Toolshed ~

[scruffypuffball]

hi @Jynx when i was collecting info in 2020 i came across quotes on twitter or FB but I didnt always copy the links provided, i think i have info somewhere but it will take me hrs to go thru everything and I am very busy with work, short staffed so dont have time atm. i did watch a Lundy Bancroft interview yesterday and he worked with abusers for 30 years and only jail can really reform them.  He said women should not go back to abusers and "work it out' that all of their time and energy and resources should go towards leaving.

[Jynx]

That's okay @scruffypuffball you don't have to spend your precious time rustling it up! I can look for stuff myself. 

Yeah wow that's hectic, 'only jail can reform them' I guess it's like, only through external, systemic intervention can they actually realise how their behaviour impacts the people around them maybe? Thanks for sharing that. You're super well-informed and it's been really insightful and helpful for me to read through all the stuff you've shared 💜

[Glisten]

@Jynx @scruffypuffball @Doog @Captain24 

Hope you’re all doing well 

 

[Glisten]

@Jynx @scruffypuffball @Doog @Captain24 Hope everyone has good moments today 

[scruffypuffball]

@toodles @Appleblossom @tyme @amber22 @hanami @creative_writer 

 @PizzaMondo @Bon_courage  @Ilovepenguins @MissLil  @Shaz51 @outlander @Judi9877 @wellwellwellnez @Zoe7  @Faith-and-Hope  @NatureLover  @nervouswreck @Captain24 @Bow @Glisten @scruffypuffball @amber22 @Snowie @Flowerlove22 @Birdofparadise8 @Blackbird11 @fluffylight @SmilingGecko @_PixieSolstice_ @tonys 

https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2023/05/4-types-of-people-narcissists-cant-stand-and-stay-a...

https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2024/01/narcissists-use-these-5-seduction-pick-up-artist-te...

"The only people who hurt you for setting limits with them are the people who were planning to hurt you anyway"

https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2023/09/workplace-bullies-are-narcissists-and-psychopaths-a...

[scruffypuffball]

@Jynx 

"Yeah wow that's hectic, 'only jail can reform them' I guess it's like, only through external, systemic intervention can they actually realise how their behaviour impacts the people around them maybe?"

They lack emotional depth so they see others as resources to exploit.  It is about power.  They dont react to the pain they cause, as they dont see pain in other people or they do and enjoy seeing other people suffer..  They only react to consequences.

Reforming bad behaviour is a 4 step process:

Exposure

Accountability

Consequences

Containment

[scruffypuffball]

@Jynx @Glisten @tonys @Doog @Captain24 @NatureLover @Appleblossom @Bow @Shaz51 @Snowie @_PixieSolstice_ @tyme

be gentle with yourself, always

THIS, so much this:

Boundaries are important:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jo2DkvIR6Dw

[tonys]

WoW   Lots of good stuff to explore there  @scruffypuffball   Thankyou so much. I will chow down on it

and stare at my mirrors.

Not an evening passes where I don't take to my knee's and pay homage to the many ghosts with poor

health that echo their screams through dark hallways of my mind..    I feed the resource of their 

sickness to my pen   and it brings food,  though sour,  to my table. 

One mans demon   is a lesser man's willing accomplice. . .   The world is not all we think and what a strange world it is . . .                                                                                                                         tonys..

Whatever  sees us another sunrise.  without devouring our brother. . .  guess   that's what we do.. 

@scruffypuffball   @Jynx   @Glisten   @Doog   @Captain24   @StuF   @greenpea  @Doog 

@Captain24   @Former-Member  @Appleblossom  and I'm unsure who else  tinkers in the tool shed but hi and 

thanks for the tag S P B,,     Peace to all.  

[StuF]

Thanks for the tag/s @tonys 

I've not tinkered in this here tool shed before, I don't think.

I must admit I find it hard enough keeping up with my 'usual' threads at times! lol

Anyway, always appreciate being tagged by/seeing you around. I hope your weekend is going well

[Appleblossom]

Yes @scruffypuffball there are many gems of wisdom in your post about trauma and responses etc. I could resonate with most of it.  Thanks

@tonys @Glisten @Jynx and all ... got the hammer out today.  Juggling some pics on the wall.