Telling someone with Narcissistic PD that they have NPD?

[SJD_1]

Thank you @Faith-and-Hope 

Sounds like you have been through it too...it changes my whole way of thinking and setting boundaries etc.

With other 'normal' type arrangements - if that exists, in families, the relaxation and love of not putting up all the barriers can be felt.  I think I have set up soo many boundaries to protect myself from the narcassist type that it is really hard to bring them down, when it comes to my own personal relationships.

Anyway - would love to evict my father - if it was that simple.  My mother is involved, there is not tenancy agreement (which doesnt really mattter - I have sent him an email outlining Fair Trading facts, 3 months notice etc).  And, I am prepared to take legal action.  My mother has been in contact with Relationships Australia and is going through her own mediation process, so will see what comes out of that.

Other than that I have been in Contact with Community Justice Centre, and have lined up another mediation process, after the Relationships Australia one.  Next steps after CJC is legal action

So, I would love to cease all contact - however at the moment this is not possible - as I want something sorted - not just swept under the carpet - which is what has been happening.

Thank you

[Faith-and-Hope]

It sounds like you are doing all you can @SJD_1 , and perhaps learning about NPD will swing the pendulum to the extreme where you feel caged in with boundaries - feeling that myself at the moment - but I am guessing that by the end of your legal / counselling processes, and mine, the pendulum will find a more comfortable midline and we will be able to venture out without being afraid of being hit by a new NPD bus from somewhere ......

I have kids involved so I can't go "no contact" either, as much as I would love to, and my mr. nasty has moved into our condensed living complex with his new fling (victim ?) so I turn every corner with the thought that I might run into them together, although that hasn't happened yet.  I am not in a position to move.  Low contact is all I can manage at the moment, and ongoing, as one of our adult children is expecting.  There will be family occasions to try to work out .... sigh ..... but I am not going to worry about that yet.

It really is a matter to taking baby steps in the direction you want to go, carefully and in a way that is gentle to you.  Letting natural consequences return to the NPD person as a result of their actions is the best way to deal with things it seems.

Thinking of you, and wishing you well.  Learning more about the condition will help you feel less apprehensive about possibly meeting others of this nature.  You will learn what the warning signs are, and how to repel them.