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Talking through trauma and PTSD

Acceptance is hard work

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@Till23 a hair tie! I have those. 

 

I didn't even think...

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Hello @MissinTooth, yes - I am still here! 

This is so understandable and honestly something that every person has resistance to... it's really hard to share when we need support, let alone go about following through. It truly takes a lot of energy and vulnerability, so it's okay to go slow. 

Hmm, what do you imagine would feel more helpful? Does anything come to mind?

Gosh, it's a lot, isn't it? I think you are doing so well to be attempting study and work at the same time. I recall you mentioning trauma-informed care as your topic of focus. I am still here to help with any questions you may have around the topic or assessments. 💛

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@AuntGlow I'm just feeling pretty low today/tonight. Just wanted to share that.

 

I don't know what would be more helpful...some one to hear me, because reaching out to them...it took a lot and a lot of sitting in that feeling of overwhelm and I feel like...nothing's been solved and I haven't been heard. Not properly. 

 

I'm so confused tonight. I've edited this post because it was an emotional outburst and I don't know how to put into words what I feel. 

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@MissinTooth Thank you for sharing this, all of your feelings are welcome here. 🥰

I understand this experience and it can be really overwhelming and isolating... 

I am just thinking, hypothetically say I handed you a magic wand, what would be the one thing you would change about your studies right now? 

(There is method to my madness, the answer will help me to help you!)

I understand this, it sounds like a part of you is feeling quite triggered... is it possible to sit with these feelings and soothe them through a comforting activity tonight? 💛

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@AuntGlow...tears.

 

If I could wave a magic wand...I would make it so that there was no pressure, no time limitations. I could do it at my own pace and step away as I need it, come back to it when I need it and step away safely and securely knowing that that future is still there for me. 

 

I'm going to make a cuppa tea and curl up in a blanket. 

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@MissinTooth I am glad you are connecting to how you feel. Do you notice that things feel a little lighter after a cry?

Ah, even reading this made me feel calm - what an amazing notion. I think so many of us could benefit from this approach (myself included). 

I get the sense a GP letter could help here. This doesn't require seeing a psychologist straight away, but it would mean letting your doctor know that things are becoming stressful and that you'd like a certificate to share with your school. This should help with some more leniency around your study. Maybe even knowing you have that support will help in itself? But what do you think?

A cuppa and a blanket sound lovely right now. 💛

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@AuntGlow I have a sense of my future and that has changed and shifted so much over the last year and a half. I was gifted that sense of my future by someone who is no longer a part of my journey, but it gave me hope.

 

And It literally saved my life at the time...

 

Moving back home...I had to reshape it and sit with the fact that the person who gave it to me, isn't going to be a part of it and I would have to figure it out for myself. Studying is me working towards that and I can't lose that future, or that hope. I have to fight for it, but I need a way to fight that's adaptive to where I'm at and what I'm going through. 

 

Studying like this...at this pace, with this pressure isn't helping. 

 

The GP letter already gives me a sense of relief, to be honest. 

 

 

And the tears are still flowing, but along with it a sense of being able to breathe and wanting to sleep. 

 

 

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This context is really helpful @MissinTooth 💛

It would have been so painful for you to lose the person who helped to instil that sense of hope within you...  I am so sorry to hear this is how things eventuated, adjusting would have been so hard. 

If there's one thing I want you to know, it's that things like hope and support often show up in many different ways... for example, I am more than happy to keep supporting you towards achieving your goals for the future (and I am sure the other peer support workers are too). 🥰

We are definitely not going anywhere! So, maybe that can offer some solace too?

I can tell you really want this, which shows me that even if the progress isn't linear or straightforward, you will get to the end. 

I am glad the idea of the GP letter resonates with you, and I am happy to know that things are slowing down. I hope you get some rest; I will be back to chat more tomorrow.

 

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Good night @AuntGlow I won't write a long reply, I'm aware you need to go. 

 

Thank you for tonight and can I ask you to do something for me? Can you check in tomorrow, please? 

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Absolutely! Wouldn't miss it. ☺️

Goodnight @MissinTooth 

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