Interesting questions tonight. I'm sorry I couldn't make it. I've been stuck with work. But some quick thoughts on "break ups" as a distraction from the work thing. 😉 They're inevitable in life and can happen with all sorts of people - from family, to friends, to partners and even therapists. They can be devastating at the time, but I do believe time heals wounds - though it can take a lot of time to get over the break up blues. Invariably we learn something from the experience, about ourselves and about others if we take the time to reflect. Sometimes it's actually good to rid ourselves of the toxic relationships or those that don't work.
I started EMDR several months ago. The therapist wasn't the right one for me. I've learnt more about what I am looking for in the people that help me and that I need to ask questions about their style earlier on and set boundaries too (I'm not a huge fan of therapist self disclosure). It annoys me that I wasted all this time and money and it took 9 precious 10 medicare sessions. It annoys me that the therapist wasn't honest about the relationship not working too. But, we've both learnt things and given each other feedback. So it's onto a new therapist in a few weeks and we'll see what happens. Fingers crossed.
I see also my experience is not uncommon to this group. It's one of the most important relationships we can form for our healing and also one of the most difficult.
