Split up from partner with long term depression

[Adj42]

I have just signed up to this forum after the decision to split from my husband of 23 years in the last month. I have moved out since and have been taken leave for a couple of weeks.  

The mental toll it was taking on me to be in an anxious environment and supporting a depressed partner , without the outlook of  improvement has driven me to a need to live separately.  It has been a wake up call for him, however, despite of having my own calm environment to work on my own health and happiness, the involvement is still huge and impacting my personal health and performance at work.  

One day is good , other days it hits me when seeing him completely distraught and not able to cope with life. 

I'm looking for ways how do I get my own life together again, so I can be there for my teenage son, be happy and focus again? I need to be able to disconnect, given he now sees and admits his happiness has to come from the 'inside', instead of the ability to cope is pending on his wife's and family support.  However, I'm very concerned about his well-being and self harm.  

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[HereForNow]

Hello Adj42, I am new here myself but wanted to touch base regardless as a few weeks have gone by and I am not sure if you've had any support.
I wonder how things are for you now and how you are feeling with your move and some time off work? Living with and/or caring for someone with Mental Health issues can be challenging, frustrating, heartbreaking and lonely at times. It sounds like for you being in an anxious environment wasn't working, especially as you were saying the outlook of improvement for your partner wasn't good at present. What supports do you and/or your partner have - friends / family / counsellor / psychologist / psychiatrist / case worker?
You've made some helpful decisions and discoveries, one being how to disconnect and establish some boundaries for yourself. How is that coming along?