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08 Mar 2023 10:58 PM
08 Mar 2023 10:58 PM
Hi Tony on Moon Base One
I love your story - and it makes so much sense. I would like to be in Town A with the Rainbow people - that would be a great place to be exactly who I am - that's the way I live pretty much - I love our culture.
But Miss Daisy - her soul withering away - I really feel that - how many people are out there unable to find their way into Town A for whatever reason? That is something else to think about - do people really need to pay to enter such a wonderful place?
Look after yourself Tony and keep writing - I enjoy reading it
Owlunar
08 Mar 2023 11:18 PM
08 Mar 2023 11:18 PM
Hi @MDT
There is no need to conform if it costs too much - for years I put up with the form of a situation to get the content - now I am pretty much alone - and enjoy my own company.
I am a friendly soul though - people seem to be chattier since the lockdowns Melbourne had a world record for - no great honour I must say - I tend to get along with most people - of course there are exceptions.
One thing I know is that loneliness doesn't draw people together. I have learned to keep away from parties that are put on to give isolated people a bit of Christmas spirit. Some people try too hard - getting bailed up with someone with a lot to say about nothing is hard to tolerate - actually - it's feels grievous to my soul to know someone is so lonely they can't stop talking and do they want my opinion? I really don't know. So I don't go anymore.
Hey - you know - if people say it's been a long time since they saw you the reverse is true. It's been a long time since you saw them - and I hear you - they seem disinterested. Perhaps they are. How disenchanting! Actually - that's a good thing - being aware of the lack of depth in small talk for the sake of something to fill the air with.
Being a good colleague is a good thing to be. We go to work to work - socialisation happens at times - sometimes we can have a good chat at a break and find a kindred spirit - usually when we are not looking.
And to be honest I have left people behind through my life - my daughter has lived in this area all her life and has friends she went to kindergarten with - my family moved around a lot and I worked in the city for years with friends all over Melbourne - I lost contact with them as time passed - moving on in my life means I need to make friends when I start again somewhere else - and socially - keeping it light is the best way to manage until I find a kindred spirit - and there is usually one somewhere - sometimes more.
I believe the secret is in being friendly and not trying - and wait and see - maybe the people who are trying too hard haven't figured it out yet - and time will change - especially if you are a good colleague.
All the best - my friend
Owlunar
09 Mar 2023 09:38 AM
09 Mar 2023 09:38 AM
09 Mar 2023 02:39 PM
09 Mar 2023 02:39 PM
Hi again @MDT
This is so true
my generation is struggling with a lot because of the perception that there is something wrong with them if they don't follow the crowd.
Actually - I don't know if it's just your generation or a lot of people - crowd following might just be easier - but not the best method of enjoying our lives.
It's not easy being unique but so - so - so much better -
We might be alone at times - sometimes lonely even - and alone we have time to create and revise what we create - and our best work is on ourselves.
In the years I have known you - you have been a battler. You have a mind and some of the company you have endured in your workplaces has not been conducive to accepting differences. It's been a struggle for you. And maybe at home things have not been that easy either. I never really got on with my mother who was always concerned with what other people thought - how nerve-wracking for her - how boring for me - I love being unique.
If we really knew about the lives of the great thinkers in our history - the poets, the scientists, people like Nelson Mandela, King George VI, Florence Nightingale - I could go on - we would find that people battled because they took the road less travelled and ignored the crowd-followers because they could see something better - something special - whatever it was.
And you are 29. I am nearly 80. At your age I had two very young children - babies really - and I was a stay-at-home mum - I was happy being a mother but housework? - I did it but I hated it. As soon as my kids were old enough, I continued my education and went to work when I could. I believe I was a better mother because I had a life for myself.
But yes - I had my may-sayers - and one of them was my mother. So - I hear you - my life was certainly different - but I was challenged too. Still - I am happy with my life - it was worth living. It's worth remembering.
Time will pass and you will look back on your life and I am sure you will find it interesting - I am sure you will find your place and your platform. Everything you do adds to the person you are becoming - and it's worthwhile.
All the best
Owlunar.
09 Mar 2023 03:39 PM
09 Mar 2023 03:39 PM
Adapt Adapt Adapt.
I did not have a clue who I was. I probably tried too hard.
Had chats at exercise class and went for coffee. Seem like a lot of people are trying to get social after the pandemic. Much more mouthy these days. Never used to know what to say, Still listen to lots of stories, including sad stories. Mostly I can say something apt, where I used to be shy and tongue tied a lot. My basic personality has not really changed, the environment always changed, I barely knew which way was up. I have hung in there, and made my choices and done me reading so a lot more feisty verbally. I was probably too much a pushover, in that I always withdrew and saved my energy for work or study or family, and barely watched tv. Nowadays they are into book groups... Yippee. Not that I really want to join any, been there done that, but I know some books they are talking about... Der ...I never knew the tv shows, pop songs or bands "everyone" used to talk about.
At least these days I do and have big roomy bag to play my different cards.
Ha ha Maybe that can be an advantage of having LOTS of baggage.
Maybe I really will have a late blooming.
Not worried about hanging around for a long time any more, trying to make it more of a good time. lol
09 Mar 2023 04:05 PM
09 Mar 2023 04:05 PM
@Appleblossom , @Owlunar , @MDT , @tonys , @Dimity , @EternalFlower , @StuF , @Faith-and-Hope , @TAB , @tyme , @amber22 , @FloatingFeather
very interesting @Appleblossom
I think I have changed so much over the years
after reading the comments i have realized i am and have lost myself somewhere in the past which is sad actually -- ( so my mum keeps telling me )
i am becoming more introverted due to have a introverted husband who does not like interacting and socializing
09 Mar 2023 04:08 PM
09 Mar 2023 04:08 PM
09 Mar 2023 04:20 PM
09 Mar 2023 04:20 PM
Hi @Shaz51
I'm sorry to hear that - however I am not surprised.
It must be so difficult to manage with your health issues - and your mum and Mr Shaz - who seems to have had thoughts of being a version of Dr.Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
This has to be hard - I don't know how you manage - well - now I think I get it - you have become more introverted to cope with all of this - I'm not too sure what to say -
For me - since I separated from my ex I have been able to become more myself - it hasn't been easy - still - worthwhile.
It has been the right thing for me - it would not be for everyone. I care Shaz - I know you had a business before you got married and life has been difficult for Mr Shaz with all sorts of challenges and losses.
I wish you the best and know it's anything but easy.
I care.
Owlunar
09 Mar 2023 04:37 PM
09 Mar 2023 04:37 PM
thank you ,my forum mum @Owlunar
yes i did things back to front
the abuse i went through when i was little ( mum said that was not good ) so we left
then we moved into gran`s house to look after her
and then my aunty and her 4 children moved in with us
sorry getting off the track here
but mum instill in me to be strong, independent , to strive in life , well i think i have done that
i was in soo many things , done soo many thing ,,my own 2 business, travelled , ect
and it is strange now as being nearly 59 , i am feeling 95% comfortable with life now even though there is a lot of ups and downs
and i interact more on the forum and on social media which i have lots of friends interacting with me daily
Hello @amber22 , how did you find socializing when you moved to Australia ?
( sorry if i have croosed a line here @moderator )
09 Mar 2023 04:46 PM
09 Mar 2023 04:46 PM
Hello! @Shaz51 I found socialising to be quite difficult. I am from South Africa and the whole 'social culture' over there is very different. It is quite unsafe to go out at night and to go to certain places, even for walks by yourself, so the various adventures and social activities that could happen over here in Australia made me quite nervous to be honest!
I of course am really thankful for the freedom now that I have been here for ten years 🙂
My brother has trouble fitting in at school, he would get badly bullied for his accent and because he was 'different'. He struggled a lot more than I did. But he is a big and tough guy now that rose above it all, and I am so proud of him
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