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Re: I can’t cope

@Captain24 Mm it's tough when the people around us just can't understand where we're at. And sometimes unfortunately when people don't understand, they sometimes react poorly, or just try to be all 'business as usual', which can be very painful for us. Like I've had to accept that my parents will never be able to be mental health supports for me, cos they just don't understand, and at times they will make it about their own emotions rather than being able to sit with me and mine. Big difference being that I don't live with them though, which certainly complicates things. But hopefully your mum will be able to work her stuff out, and you can always ask/tell her what being supportive would look and feel like for you. Even just stuff like "It's okay if you don't know what to say, sometimes a hug goes a long way" or like, "It would really mean a lot to me if you could ask me how I'm going or remind me from time to time that you do care".

 

Oh yeah it absolutely gets easier! Takes like a month I think for the nicotine to work it's way out of the system? Don't quote me on that lol. And also finding other things to turn to when stressed or having really bad cravings - chewing gum, chewing ice cubes (stimulates pain receptors, which releases dopamine), fidget toys, having a sweet drink to sip on - really helps. It's akin to the concept of urge surfing for dealing with self-harm urges; eventually the craving will pass, it's just about occupying your brain in the meantime. Nowadays I can be around people smoking and never even think about wanting one. And the smell! Ugh it's worse to my nose now than it was before I ever started smoking! It's a huge deterrent in itself. 

 

When I tell you I was bad, I mean picking durries off the ground kinda bad. If I can quit, you can too 😎😉

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The vet nurse that teaches puppy preschool gave me the number of one of the nurses that works there that does house sitting and pet sitting. @Jynx

 

Pixie is pretty well known at the vets for her aggressiveness. But tonight’s nurse thinks Pix will like her. So hopefully it all works out. I’m not sure how much it’s going to cost but at least it’s peace of mind. 

I went to the shops to get some smokes but I couldn’t get a park. I guess that was a sign. I just have to keep working at it. I’m hoping that by managing to quit it shows me that I can do something. 

 

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So mum just rang and self centred me thought that she may be checking to see how I’m going with Pix and Jett. 

No.. she rang to tell me her auntie passed away. That is how thoughtless I am. I just said ‘oh that’s sad’. What do you say when she was well into her 90’s and still living on her own. She was a funny old stick though. I remember one day I was with her and someone said something about mums dad and she said ‘THAT MONGREL BASTARD! I don’t have a brother’ just a rough guess but I don’t think she liked him! 

 

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No guilt in not knowing @Captain24! That's sad to hear, but yeah when it's time, it's time hey. Glad you have some funny memories to reflect on 💜

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Yeah.. @Jynx Shame it wasn’t me.. 😢 

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I hope you go out the same way @Captain24 - 90 years old and with a whole bundle of good memories for you and the people around you 💜 I think it's the best any of us could ask for. 

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This is why you don’t call help lines.. They are f’ing useless. I feel so much worse than when I called. I must be bad because I never call. 

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Hey @Captain24 ,

 

It sounds like you're having a really hard night.

 

What's helpful on nights like these?

 

- PrincessLettuce

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It’s really hard @PrincessLettuce.

 

Ive tried having a shower, I’ve taken my meds, I’ve taken extra otc ones as well. Nothing is helping me get to sleep so I can forget. I’ve tried white noise. I feel like I’ve tried everything. If I could just sleep then everything would be ok. 

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