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20-07-2024 12:28 PM
20-07-2024 12:28 PM
Unsure if my feelings and response is warranted
Hi, I really hope this is ok to post; I have read the guidelines so think it is ok. Please let me know if it isn’t.
TW: Intimacy
My partner of 2 years has just told me about a fetish he has.
I’m hurt for the reason that he didn’t me during all our conversations Around the topic. But I’m not sure if I have the right to be angry about feeling used. I understand he was too embarrassed to tell me.
thoughts?
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20-07-2024 12:45 PM - edited 20-07-2024 12:46 PM
20-07-2024 12:45 PM - edited 20-07-2024 12:46 PM
Re: Unsure if my feelings and response is warranted
Hey @Purpleflower09 ,
It's ok to have mixed feelings when you have built a relationship on trust and you feel like the other person hasn't been completely forthcoming. You have a right to your feelings. One thing I was taught in therapy was that "Your feelings are valid, your actions may or may not be". I guess it's about allowing yourself to have your feelings and then working out where to go from there. And good on you for coming to the forums to talk it through, welcome.
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22-07-2024 11:31 AM
22-07-2024 11:31 AM
Re: Unsure if my feelings and response is warranted
As @Ainjoule said your feelings about the situation are valid, so don't go beating yourself up about that. Now its up to you both to talk about it, and I mean talk about it properly, no dancing around the subject. Be honest with how it makes you feel, put all your cards on the table, hopefully you two can talk and resolve this. You have 2 years together, so talk........Asgard