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03-04-2023 10:16 AM
03-04-2023 10:16 AM
First post
Hi all,
new to the forum.
I have a 20 year old son with ocd and other anxieties. He is about to start an assessment for Autism. Some days I just don't know how to help him. And I worry about him, spending all his days in his room. I recently left my job to support him better, but I don't know if anything is making a difference. He is happy in his room. Safe i guess from the germs.
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03-04-2023 10:40 AM
03-04-2023 10:40 AM
Re: First post
Welcome to the Forums. My name is Hanami and I am one of the peer workers at SANE. It is great to have you here. I'm sorry to hear about how things are for you right now. As a parent it's one of the worst feelings that you can't seem to help your child. Hopefully the assessment results will be helpful.
A good place to start for your own wellbeing is to maybe have a look at some carer's organisations for support. Here are the links to two:
I'm wondering if your son might be open to connecting with an organisation that offers support for younger Australians, It also has a parents section so it might be something you may be interested in too: Reachout.
I hope some others can chime in with some tips for you on how best to support your son.
Warmest wishes
Hanami
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03-04-2023 11:10 AM - edited 03-04-2023 11:12 AM
03-04-2023 11:10 AM - edited 03-04-2023 11:12 AM
Re: First post
Hi @Kilpa4,
Welcome to the Forums. My name is FloatingFeather and I am one of the peer support workers at SANE. It is nice to have you with us.
I feel for you and your son. I have three kids, two are young adults so I know how much us mums worry about our children regardless of their age. It's so hard when we are on the `sidelines' wanting to help but not always knowing (or able) how too.
It's good to know that he is happy in his room at least. My son (also 20) went through a hard time in senior school when he spent a lot of time in his room depressed and kept to himself a lot so I understand your worry about your son always being in his room.
Does your son have any friends he could go out with / come over to your house? Would he be interested in going out to see a movie, have a coffee etc with you / a friend?
Being a mum is hard, I think we just want to makes things better for our kids and sometimes that isn't always possible. It does sound like your son has a great mum that really cares about him. I do hope you have someone to lean on and cares about you too.
Warm wishes,
FloatingFeather