Hey @Healandlove ,

It looks like there are many who can relate to what you are sharing. It sounds like avoidance is your husband's go to. I'm wondering if his depression is making him void of feeling at this time? Sometimes, things get so hard that they become numb. I had depression for many years. It was a combination of medication and talking therapy that helped. Without the anti depressants, I don't think I would have been able to take in therapy. 

It sounds like he really needs support for his own mental health so that he can then be there to support you and the children. 

Hang in there. The progress is slow, but not impossible. All things are possible.