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@tyme , thank you for thinking of me. I have also been thinking about every member in this forum that I have read comments on and just thinking how much other people are going through as well. I'm OK. Things at home have been OK. We had a couple counselling session on Thursday that went well and my husband acknowledged a few things which has been uplifting. I do worry that his complex-PTSD has made me more controlling. I worry about him drinking even though he only drinks a bit of wine on a Friday, Saturday and a bit on a Sunday. I get anxious when he has his next glass on a Friday. I worry this is too much and I stop him. It makes me feel bad and controlling. I worry that if I don't set a boundary with a number he will have a whole bottle on his own. I think I am doing the wrong thing. I guess for me it's the fear that he has that next glass to let down his guard and it is just not the right way to deal with emotions. I don't think I should say anything to him anymore and should just let him decide how much he wants to drink on these 3 days. I just don’t know if I am helping him or hurting him with my anxiety. Maybe it is me who has to change my outlook on things. 😔...I don't know anymore. He does become upset, just goes quiet if I mention it so he obviously doesn't like it. But I fear he uses alcohol as a coping mechanism.
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