@JustWhelmed , that is an interesting dream! I am glad it brought you happiness. I sometimes look at the past and think what if...what if I had know my husband carried these weights and needed help. What if I had set tougher boundaries...would it had helped him sooner? It is not very helpful for me to look back.

It is nice that in this first relationship you left in good terms. You can feel peace that you did try to help him.

Life does get harder and I guess that makes me feel resentment sometimes.  Is it this hard for people in relationships where there are no mental health problems? As you said in a previous post, we could we so much happier if the c-ptsd could be consistently managed. I hope we get there as families. One day...