I have already spent over $1000 to a psych who was assessing my son for Autism but the last appointment when she said she would write up a letter, she was also in the middle of packing her office and changing jobs. I never got a letter, this was 2 years ago. I am not 100% sure it would have been a supportive letter as he was in erly stages of transitioning and she brushed a lot of his gender identity issues as being confused (autism gender confusion vs actually being transgender and knowing his true self)

I guess what I am wanting to understand is if he got a diagnosis, what benefit does it actually give him? He is too old for early interventions and I jus don't know what else is available. I know if he gets to Uni next year they have support in place there.

Should i chase up the old psych, since she had the assessment details and i paid her? Or should i start from scratch now I have the July bonuses in hand ?

He used to want the diagnosis, now he isn't really giving me much to go on. I know he would like me put the $ towards gender confirming surgery... (staring at a possible $12000 bill for that)

Please help me rationalize the smartest way to go. TIA