Edited. @Jynx 

What is normal is not simple for me. Not sure if it is going be helpful to unpack on a public forum. Also might be too many identifying details for true anonymity.

Current circumstances were too complicated for the lady I saw today. She tried to be nice but also said she had to be blunt at times. None of it makes sense without context. It is too easy to be dismissed and put in the too hard basket.  The time allowed just doesn't make real understanding possible. We will see what happens, but guessing it will be a waste of time and money.