Hello @Jlol 

Thanks for that take on acceptance @MJG017 . It makes sense in terms of childhood trauma as wel asl your example of the current housing crisis. What's done is history so rumination and recriminations aren't very helpful, it's better to try to move forward and bend the narrative. But some of us find ourselves stuck. We need a hand to reinvent ourselves. 

@Jlol there are books on selfhelp using acceptance and commitment therapy.  I know because I bought one. But it's buried somewhere and I haven't used it...