In terms of being a carer for someone with BPD, I can’t offer much insight @Dominique21 

But I can offer insight from a diagnosed 22 year old. She is hurting. She is emotionally tortured. She wants relationships but is too afraid she will get hurt.

Love from you is in the form of telling me that you care and you want what’s best for me but ultimately it’s my choice. Love is giving me space to find myself. Love is setting boundaries and sticking to them because boundaries help me feel safe. Love is telling me you will do something at a certain time, and you keep to your word. Love is not getting angry or disgusted when I self harm. Love is giving me choice and options, not taking this away from me.

Love is to be there for me, and sending me a text message so I know you haven’t given up on me.

Love is when you do not try to reason with me when I am triggered or overwhelmed.

Love is when you stay strong for my sake.

- From a 22 year old survivor’s point of view, BPDSurvivor