I think in "the olden times" there used to be this sort of baskety-crib thing that you could tie up on a tree branch and swing a baby in to soothe it.
Sometimes I wish we could do that with people who hurt us, and others around us - just put them into a baskety-crib and let them soothe themselves there for a while, leaving us to go about our own lives with the love and support of caring people around us, and check back in on the crabby ones occasionally.
I don't know if it helps you at all @BlueBay, but have any of your therapists given you visualisation exercises ? Perhaps as @Former-Member siggests, you can visualise handing your parents over to someone else - God if you have faith in Him - or to someone else you have known who is a loving, caring figure in your life, and just aske them, in your mind and heart, to just "baby-sit" your parents for a while so you can concentrate a bit better on your beautiful children and your poetry writing, without them being such an interference for you.
I hope that is a helpful thing to consider.
In the meantime, can you choose something a little bit special for your day, this day ? Can you wear something that is your favourite colour perhaps ? Or spend extra time with Jersey, giving your fur-baby a treat of something they enjoy and seeing the pleasure that brings them. Maybe there are some flowers nearby you can put into a vase in your kitchen. Just something small that is self-care. Just for you.
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Thanks for clarifying! It is so hard when we are estranged from family and there is a a mix of anger and sadness, other emotions too. As a counsellor I talk to a lot of people who feel they were born into the wrong family or are the "black sheep" in their family. Sometimes it's too hard to have family in our lives...and as adults we get to choose that.
