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04 Jun 2025 01:26 PM
04 Jun 2025 01:26 PM
Hi. I’m new here. I have been really struggling with my mental health and anxiety. quick back story, I have bipolar and anxiety and 2 years ago I was in a coma for 3 weeks ( due to heart surgery gone bad)
i have been locking myself away from people, I get invited place but I won’t go… and then I don’t get invited anymore and then I get all depressed because no one invites me places. My friends are drinkers and I don’t drink anymore, (I feel we have grown apart) But I went to the pub and got drunk the other night and that made me feel 1000 times worse.
I have always had anxiety after drinking but this anxiety is lasting longer than usual. I haven’t left the house in 4 days.
04 Jun 2025 01:47 PM
04 Jun 2025 01:47 PM
Hey @River14, thanks for sharing your experiences with the community!
It sounds like you are going through a bit at the moment after your heart surgery and recovery. I watch my father go through that too and understand how challenging the recovery can be. You are demonstrating your resilience by reaching out to your peers here on the Forums, which is not always easy to be vulnerable.
I totally understand that you didn't feel like socialising with your friends, and it is a common thing to do with MH. I have done it myself and also found that I was more isolated as people stopped messaging me. It sounds like you want to connect again, what are some ways that you could change the situation now?
I noticed that you mentioned that you haven't been outside for a few days and wondering if you have any plans in the near future that might change that?
Take care
RiverSeal
04 Jun 2025 02:00 PM
04 Jun 2025 02:00 PM
Thank you for replying and your kind words
I have to go back to work tomorrow, I was meant to go today but I just couldn’t bring myself to go.
it was a very hard road to getting my life back to semi normal. My anxiety has gotten worse over the past 2 years. I haven’t stepped foot into this one grocery shop in the town where I live for years, I’ll drive half an hour to go to a grocery store.
this one friend has been my friend for 20+ years. They came and seen me a few times when I was in hospital but when I come home from hospital they didn’t come near me, plus called me boring cause I don’t drink.
04 Jun 2025 04:53 PM
04 Jun 2025 04:53 PM
04 Jun 2025 06:49 PM
04 Jun 2025 06:49 PM
Hi @River14 and welcome to the forums. I hope you feel acceptable here as there are many kind people willing to share their lived experience with you.
Take care ❤️
04 Jun 2025 08:14 PM
04 Jun 2025 08:14 PM
I do like that idea. I have to make time ❤️
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