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05-05-2023 07:41 PM
05-05-2023 07:41 PM
New to this. Struggling a bit.
New to this but thought I'd have ago. The last 3 weeks have been so hard for myself and my daughter. My partner attempted suicide. And has been in hospital since. She has blamed me for what has happened. We are having a few problems, I wanted 2 days away to clear my head. She then attempted it. It's been a rollercoaster. My daughter is all over place. Doesn't want to have anything to do her anymore. She is starting counselling next wk. I'm a mess. Have decided to end the relationship. Just can't don't it anymore. I'm so sad, confused and lost. She has been diagnosed with boarderline personality disorder. She is nice one day and nasty the next. Very tired.
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05-05-2023 07:54 PM
05-05-2023 07:54 PM
Re: New to this. Struggling a bit.
Hi @Noyb
Glad you found the forum.
Glad you vented.
You wrote well. You packed a lot of information in your chat.
You appear to be astute.
You appear to know what you have to do.
Hard your daughter needs counselling but we do know children feel the affects of relationships.
Glad you are thinking what you need to do to move forward.
Very hard to live life "walking on eggs"
It is important to know you are not alone and it is good you see it os a journey.
Sane has help. Lifeline is also good to vent.
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05-05-2023 08:02 PM
05-05-2023 08:02 PM
Re: New to this. Struggling a bit.
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05-05-2023 08:08 PM
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Re: New to this. Struggling a bit.
Hi @Noyb
It is so hard to get around helping ourself seems selfish.
Practise what l preach. It is not selfish.
Like you, l feel so guilty "getting on" when the people we help do not show they want progress and we feel guilty.
You have a daughter.
Without sounding hard, it is maybe more selfish for you and your daughter to suffer.
Have fun with your daughter. Let her see life continues while her mum sorts herself out.
One hopes your wife will see she is missjng the Love.
But if she does not, you owe it to your daughter to be "selfish" and keep you and your daughter as Sane as you can.
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05-05-2023 08:12 PM
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05-05-2023 08:13 PM
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Re: New to this. Struggling a bit.
In summary.
It does sound selfish but is far from selfish.
I said you sound astute
There is wisdom too.
Do not worry what others think.
You need to manage you.
If you do not, you and your daughter may suffer.
Be nice to you
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05-05-2023 08:14 PM
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05-05-2023 09:19 PM
05-05-2023 09:19 PM
Re: New to this. Struggling a bit.
Hi @Noyb ,
Welcome to the forums. I can hear how confusing things are for you right now.
I'm wondering whether you would be interested in visiting Raising Awareness of BPD - Flipping the Script .
Please know you are not alone.
Kindest, tyme
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06-05-2023 12:08 AM
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06-05-2023 10:07 AM
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Re: New to this. Struggling a bit.
Sorry to hear your story. But my daughter is struggling with day to day living. As result of all this trauma. I don't want her to go down the same path. Everybody's story is different. There is also a history of abuse.. I am looking after her wellbeing and advice from professionals.